‘Don’t care was made to care’, was one of the things my Mum would say to me when I had responded petulantly, in typical preteen fashion, that I didn’t care that it was ‘dangerous’,’ I was late’ or ‘greens were good for me’. At the time ‘Mum’s sayings’, as we called them, would be met with rolled eyes. Although, in my defence my Mum did say a lot of things that to me were inexplicable such as ‘Even a worm will turn’, ‘You’re so sharp you’ll cut yourself’ and, if I had pulled a particularly unattractive face, ‘The wind will change and you’ll stay like that’.
Suffice to say that I often didn’t pay as much attention as I should have to my Mum’s words of, as it turns out, wisdom. Last night at 11pm though, the saying ‘Don’t care was made to care’ was brought sharply to mind. You may remember in my first blog that I pondered the risks of social media and by extension the wider media and decided that the risks weren’t that big. But when I saw the headline in the Metro from last Friday ‘This company has ruined ball pits for everyone by installing one in their office’ my heart didn’t just sink it flipped all the way down to the bottom. I read the article at lightning speed and found that actually it wasn’t negative about Cortecs as the headline had suggested. In fact it was probably the best article of all, in terms of explaining the Cortecs approach and the journalist (Miranda Larbi) had obviously taken considerable time to check out our website and explain accurately our rationale. But then the truly heart stopping moment, at the end of the article was a poll, which asked ‘Are they ruining ball pits for everyone?’ I’m used to getting feedback and being rated in terms of my work, in fact I’ve always sought this out, as evaluating how you’re doing is crucial to improving performance. I have however never been rated or something so important to me has never been rated, in a national newspaper. So I clicked the poll and then…relief, over 75% of people responded to the question ‘Are they ruining ball pits for everyone?’ with ‘Absolutely not, I need to work there’. The rest were evenly split between responding ball pits ‘should be a leisure only activity’, which obviously I disagree with, as I believe that fun shouldn’t be limited to leisure time it should be brought into the workplace. The rest of the respondents wondered ‘Why are adults playing in a ball pit?’ which is a brilliant question which I love to answer, as I can explain our approach and the wealth of research that shows how cognitive stimulation supports learning and performance and how happiness improves wellbeing.
I guess this is exactly what my Mum meant, you think you don’t care and then suddenly it’s brought home to you how much you really do care. I didn’t think the opinion of strangers would mean so much to me but it obviously does. It makes perfect sense as Cortecs means so much to me so if it was to get negative feedback it would be bound to hurt. It’s like someone criticising my children, although that is guaranteed to not so much strike a nerve, as set off a nuclear reaction.
So Mum, I’m sorry I rolled my eyes at your pearls of wisdom, you were quite right, even the mildest person can lose their temper, I did learn that sharp retorts can end up coming back to haunt me and whilst the wind won’t do it, over the years your face will reflect the expressions you most often pull, which in my case means I must have spent most of my life sporting a big cheesy grin.
Most of all I’m glad I care, as it’s when you care that you put in the effort, overcome the obstacles and achieve things that I’m sure you’d be proud of.